My husband puts it best when it comes to avoiding the asteroid parenting style. Indications to revamp your parenting: If you're child is whining a lot to get your attention.
"I hear parents constantly saying no and don't.
…focus on the positive and tell them what they can do
and offer them corrections with explanations.
Children are curious creatures.
Just think about the overwhelming number
of questions they have in a day.
Now imagine their frustration when they are
simply told no or stop that, etc. etc. without
explaining to them why they should stop or what
could happen if they did this or that.
Imagine your own frustration if your boss
simply said no or stop with out explaining
what to do and so on......
Take parenting seriously. Approach it professionally.
Respect your children, listen and explain everything to them,
teach them how to appropriately request audience from you,
(excuse me Mom......, Dad..... may I.....? could you......?).
Before you know it, you will have respectful, well behaved children.
As Bon says, Good Luck, Good Parenting!!